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Dependence

Posted by
Charlotte Meryman (Williamsburg, MA, United States) on 21 February 2011 in People & Portrait and Portfolio.

4/9 My aunt and my mother escort Henry on a walk around my sister's farm in rural New York over Christmas. As with so many of his behaviors, the more you support him, the more he leans on you, until you both are in danger of falling over. It's a particular hazard for my mom, now 87, but after 56 years of caring for him, she finds it just as hard to let go as it is to hold on. I rescued her just after I shot this picture, and, lo and behold, he continued on just fine without her guiding arm. Striking that balance between maintaining his independence and keeping him calm and is a constant struggle.

Canon EOS 7D 1/200 second F/5.6 ISO 500 135 mm

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Leah Kay from Fort Collins, United States

i absolutely love this. such different facial expressions. what a beautiful family you have.

21 Feb 2011 6:34am

k@ from Paris, France

The new serie is as strong as your previous ones, Charlotte, love how you caught so different expressions from despair to joy to natural ones, and here everything seems so heavy to bear for him, heartbreaking & luminous to be able to see him laugh with you too on the previous post. Hope you are fine, have a nice week*

21 Feb 2011 9:47am

Sonia Nansid from Stockholm, Sweden

Very touching!

21 Feb 2011 3:34pm

David from Detroit, United States

A lot of people would like to say that dealing with someone with special needs is like this or like that-- they want to have neat boundaries for their understanding. It isn't like that. Your series shows the wide range of traits every person has, regardless of their abilities.

22 Feb 2011 1:24am

Canon EOS 7D
1/200 second
F/5.6
ISO 500
135 mm

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